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Episode 28 - Weight Loss: What the Billion-Dollar Industry Doesn’t Want You Questioning

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What if weight loss isn’t about “trying harder,” but about how your body actually experiences fullness, safety, and reward?

In this episode of Three Questions, I dive into the three questions I wish more people would ask when it comes to weight loss. We’ll look beyond the tired calories-in, calories-out narrative and explore how digestion, hormones, and even your pre-meal rituals can play a bigger role than discipline alone.

We’ll cover:
 ✅ Why fullness feels different for different people and how that shapes eating habits
 ✅ How conditions like hypermobility, celiac disease, and stress influence weight loss struggles
 ✅ Simple shifts before, during, and after meals that can improve digestion and reduce overwhelm

Whether you’re a movement professional, someone supporting clients, or just tired of chasing the same weight loss advice that never seems to stick, this episode will challenge the idea that it’s all about calories and willpower and help you ask better questions that actually move you forward.

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Meghann Koppele Duffy: Welcome to Three Questions where critical thinking is king, and my opinions and research are only here to support your learning and deeper understanding. Hey, I'm your host Meghann, and I am so honored. You clicked on Three Questions today to talk about a pretty big topic, and that topic is weight loss.

Now we all have our personal experience, our personal beliefs. And I want us to leave all that at the door today and think about these three questions and really think if maybe we're missing a big part of the puzzle. Now, initially, I'll be honest, I did not really wanna do this episode because I feel like weight loss is so personal and it's such a big topic.

And I was like, how am I gonna really dig in in 30 minutes? And then I googled. How much money does the weight loss industry make a year? And I knew it was gonna be high, but man, it was like 400 billion in growing. And then I thought to myself, damn, that's a lot of money. And what it says to me is that we are dealing with a problem that there is no definitive answers.

Okay. If there was, we wouldn't be coming up with new things all the time. And people want answers. People want solutions. People want help. So if anything, my goal of today's podcast is we're gonna look at like an aspect of weight loss that is often ignored, and I just want you to think about it a little bit, argue both sides of each question, and maybe come to a conclusion for yourself.

Or maybe you will ask a question to a client or yourself that's struggling with weight loss. And maybe that could be the thing that just gets them to the, the next phase or closer to their goal. So let's get into it. Question one. What if your weight loss struggle had nothing to do with discipline?

Nothing to do with discipline, but instead was the way your brain is interpreting fullness, safety, and reward. Now, this question is a big one. And I think everybody assumes I've done it too. I don't like to admit it, but I'll admit when I was wrong. I think we assume when people gain weight in a significant amount, that they have a discipline problem.

Well, you're just not exercising enough. You should just go to the gym and lift weights. Why are you doing this? Stop eating that. There's choices in life. We all have to make choices. Come on guys. It's more complex than that. So question one a. What does happiness feel like? Think about it right now. Yell it out in your car, on the track, wherever you're listening to this.

What does happiness feel like? Come on, tell me, what does happiness feel like? Man, it's so hard to answer, isn't it? I ask my advanced mentees years ago, and frankly, the answers were appalling. I mean, my answer wasn't good either. I was so pissed at my answer. And I kind of went back and I was like, all right, it can't be like our spouse, our children, our dogs.

It's gotta be something deeper guys. Something within us. And then all I could come up was with was laundry. Now it wasn't laundry, it was because how I do laundry. For me, when I'm having a day where I'm super anxious or just can't get one foot in front of the other, I always do at least one load of laundry because at least I completed something.

So I equate happiness with completion. Ah,

I think that's kind of bad. Now let me explain. It's not bad. Listen, I'm a pretty motivated person. I kind of like to do things. However, happiness should not be based off completion. I tell my students all the time, enjoy the process, enjoy the process, and I do. That's kind of how I live my life. However I was saying it, I don't think I was embodying it.

And I realized, number one, you don't have to feel happy all the time. That would be weird. Right? Also, maybe happiness is just kind of. Normal or happiness is excessive joy, not the app, um, not the absence of sadness. Everybody's gonna say something different. And if you say, this is the definition of happiness, get outta here.

Relax. What makes you happy is not gonna what makes me happy. All right, so I ask that question about happiness because I feel like it's the same thing about fullness. So, one B, what does fullness feel like to you? Go ahead, yell it out. What does fullness feel like to you?

I don't wanna share my answer, but I have to. I've gotta be honest with you guys. Fullness to me feels like discomfort and a little disgust. Now let me explain. A little background on me. I have celiac. I was diagnosed later in life. I was diagnosed. I didn't go to the doctor to see if I had celiac. I went to the doctor because I was losing a lot of weight and I looked gray and I couldn't eat anything.

I was always very full. Okay. Um, the sad part of this story is I was the thinnest I ever was. I was gray and everybody kept telling me how good I looked, talk about messing with someone's head. Now people thought I looked good because I guess people liked me, how I looked better, thinner, but, you know, what are you gonna do?

Um, and when I went to the doctor, I was convinced I had, um, one of my friends kind of diagnosed me with potentially ovarian cancer because. All I was having ovarian issues, cyst, and I was feeling full all the time and I was feeling like shit. So of course I was thought it was much more serious than it is.

Okay. Luckily, I did not have ovarian cancer. I just have celiac, and the doctor kind of reprimanded me and said, with Celiac, she's like, your pancreas isn't functioning correctly. That is the major problem, but it's because you are not. Following the Celiac diet and I was like, but I don't have celiac. She's like, yes, you do.

And then showed me the blood work and all the tests. She thought I knew I had celiac. I did not know. Okay, so what was interesting about that is because I had celiac, I was eating food, gluten, I ate a lot of bread that was actually causing severe inflammation. Now, sidebar destroyed my pancreas. But anyway.

I was always full. So for me, it felt uncomfortable. Anytime I felt full, it felt uncomfortable, and it felt like I was like overeating, like Thanksgiving dinner, and it made my clothes feel tighter, my skin feel tighter, and I hated that feeling. So maybe you're like, oh my God, I have a lot of fullness too.

Don't diagnose yourself with celiac or ovarian cancer. Go to a doctor or get tests. There's a lot of reasons why you could be feeling full. Okay. But what was interesting to me is I thought everybody felt the same way when they were full. Nope. I work with a lot of people who are hypermobile, some with the diagnosis of EDS or HEDS, some people on the spectrum of that.

Some people with just some hypermobility due to immobility elsewhere. Okay. So it was really interesting as I started to talk to clients and I remember as the first. The first client I really broached the subject with, she was V. She was overweight. She's had surgeries to deal with it, and she still struggled with her weight.

What was interesting upon her movement, she was also very, very hypermobile. She did not know this. I did not diagnose her with this, and as somebody who was a smaller size than her, I didn't want to comment on her weight. I didn't know if it was appropriate. But I asked her a question, do you feel, what does fullness feel like to you?

And she's like, huh, I, well, I don't really ever feel full. And I was like, say more please. And after that conversation, it kind of opened up the dialogue. I was so afraid I was gonna offend her. I wasn't asking good questions. Okay? So by getting into it deeper, she never felt full. So let me ask you this. How do you know when to stop eating?

Well, I'm only supposed to have this much of a portion. Okay, guys, chill on that. Most people stop eating because they're full, or maybe they don't wanna gain weight. I don't know why you're stopping to eat, but I imagine not feeling full is very hard to manage your weight or to know when to stop. The only thing I can equate it to is about the Wednesday before my period.

Now that I'm in perimenopause or pre menopause, whatever the hell you call it, that's actually changed. But most of my life, the Wednesday before my period, I felt like I could eat anything. Like I could eat 10 meals and I would still feel like I wasn't full, which was strange to me because I always felt full.

Now that is because hormones also play a role in fullness. Okay, so when your body is prepping for pregnancy, our body releases hormones to kind of relax tendons, relax muscles, all that jazz. Okay? So everybody's body responds different to that. Now, for some people, I thought to myself, oh my God, I felt like that every day.

I think I would overeat, and I'm putting that in air quotes more often. Wow. That must be really hard when you don't feel full ever. Okay. So you might be like, I never thought of that, or, no, I've been talking about that for years. I'm so glad someone else did. Wonderful. Keep talking about it. But what we need to understand is that people have a different understanding of fullness.

Everybody describes it differently. That's number one. People with hypermobility. Neurological issues. They might have proprioceptive issues, they might have spasticity in their bladder, and I've actually argued with neurologists. If someone gonna have spasticity in their bladder, how can they not have it in their stomach?

And they'll be like, because we said so. Okay. What people don't realize is there's also gastric mechanical receptors. That's kind of when we eat. So digestion starts in your mouth. That's why I really believe we should be chewing. Also, I did see a diet when I was searching that it's you should like, you need to chew this amount of times and that's, people are fat 'cause they're not chewing enough, which I'm just like, wait a take science and totally go make a left turn and make assumptions.

But anyway, digestion does start in the mouth, especially with carbohydrates. So anyway, when we eat our stomach, the food sits in our stomach and our. We have to break that down. Different organs, release different things. Like for me, I have to take medication every time I eat because my pancreas doesn't release Digestive enzymes kind of important, which is why I was gray, because my body wasn't absorbing any nutrients because I wasn't breaking down any nutrients.

So. Very easy fix. So for your clients or for yourself, understand what does fullness feel like to them, and if they don't feel fullness, there are different strategies to work on that. Now everybody has a different sensation of fullness for different reasons. So if you want to get to the bottom of it, I suggest going to a doctor, going to someone who you can talk to about it, you know, maybe get some food sensitivity test, maybe talk to someone who's a hypermobility specialist.

Also, I'm going to bring it up, these GLP one medications. I am so sick of the yelling and screaming about them in the sense of the judgment. I would love everybody who listens to my podcast to stop judging people for taking GLP ones. And I would like people who are taking the GLP ones, um, to feel less shame for doing it because what they are designed for originally is people who have diabetes type two diabetes.

Someone very close to me has type two diabetes or pre-diabetic, took a GLP one, and it has totally changed her life to me in a positive way. Okay. She seems less anxious, more chill. Um, she now understands what fullness is because these GLP ones have an effect on gastric emptying. Okay? Now, I kind of could argue like slowing down of gastric emptying that's gonna affect digestion overall.

But, but what it does for a lot of people, it helps them understand fullness, what that feels like. Okay. Also, there's some other movement strategies I'll talk about at the end of this podcast of different ways to be more mindful of eating, to help with this inability to feel fullness, because fullness is a big part of safety.

So our brain is going to respond different and our body's gonna respond differently whether we are starving or over hungry or. Just the right amount of full or overly full. I had to relearn how to eat after the celiac diagnosis. And it's kind of hard for me because I don't like eating small meals throughout the day.

I'm like my dad, I wanna eat one meal a day and be left alone. Okay? Now for me, that eating one meal a day has become problematic because I can't eat that much in one meal, so I'm not getting enough nutrition. Okay? Now, people don't equate that with weight loss. Oftentimes when I only eat one meal a day, I actually gain weight.

Okay? But that's for a different conversation. So eating small meals throughout the day had to be a lifestyle change for me, and understanding if I ever felt extremely hungry, I had waited too long to eat. Okay? So instead of sending my brain and body into these emergency, emergency starving overfull, what if we just kind of stayed in that middle ground?

Which is hard to do, but it's something you can train your body to do. And what's interesting using kind of things like, you know, behavioral theories is when we feel better, we're more up to do that. Okay. So there's different theories of actually making organized changes. Like I do this with my, my doctorate.

I set a schedule of when I'm gonna work on grad school work. I did not do that the first two years, and I procrastinated everything. I always got it done, but I was a ball of stress. And then I realized this is not working long term. And what I realized is when I actually do the work, when I assign myself to do it, I'm less stressed.

I have more time on the weekends. Well, this feels really good and it's reinforced that pattern. Okay. Also, sometimes when you just change something, you feel better for me. I actually did not like the Celiac diagnosis, if I'm being honest. Um. I actually made a joke to the doctor and I'm like, yeah, but if it was stomach cancer, I'd be able to eat bread.

And the doctor did not find it funny. I did not want cancer. I just was trying to make light. I make jokes and I'm uncomfortable. So I had to make a lot of lifestyle changes in the way I eat. It kind of sucks, but as I say, some people have real problems. I just can't eat bread. Alright, so what I notice is when I stopped eating gluten, this is my favorite story about my mother, and if you have an Irish Catholic parent.

You'll understand this story. When I stopped eating gluten, it's just me and my mother in the room. She whispers to me, are you on medication? Now, I whispered into the microphone, but I'm gonna say it. My mom asked me if I was on medication for anxiety, and she whispered it to me and I said, why'd you ask that?

And then she's like, no, no, no. I didn't mean any disrespect, Meg. I didn't. And I was like, no, no. Please tell me why you asked that. And she's like, you just seem different. And I was like, say more. She's like, well, for example, I was visiting them in Florida and she's like, you laid out by the pool for three hours.

I've never seen you do that. You just seem like calm. And I was like, I know mom. I feel that. Thank you for noticing. And from then on I said, well, maybe this doctor had something. Right. I noticed my celiac, I never really had stomach aches, although the fullness. It really affected my mental health, my clarity, and it gave me a lot of anxiety.

So stopping eating gluten almost felt the same as being medicated for anxiety, which was kind of strange for me. I was like, wow, this is great. But because of that, people ask me if I cheat and I eat gluten, and I'm like, no, why would I cheat? That's poison to my body. And also if I'm being honest, it's because.

Living with less anxiety is kind of awesome. So I would never go back to eating gluten because I enjoy how it feels in my head here. So these conditions and changing our behavior, when we feel a benefit, we stick to it. So if you are listening to this right now and you're like, yes, but I've done all the things, Meg, I've done all those things, then let me, I want you to hear this.

Then it wasn't the thing that's gonna get you to your goals, because if it didn't give you a sensation of feeling better or a big change, it's not going to be a drastic enough change in your brain to reinforce that pattern or reinforce that reward. Okay, so to just put a bow on question number one, I want us to think right now.

After we went through that, ask yourself again, is your weight loss struggle just a discipline problem? You might still think that you could be more disciplined, but why are you not disciplined? Are you not disciplined because what you're doing is not actually working for you? You maybe you don't know what fullness feels like, or you do know what fullness feels like and you're like me, and you're trying to manage that in a different way.

Maybe you do need a medication to balance your blood sugar. And you're feeling a fullness, and is that a shortcut? I don't think so because I truly feel that if you cannot get a hold on what fullness feels like and the different sensations of how your body feels when it's hungry and when it's full, I don't think you can actually sustain long-term weight loss, and I am going to die on that hill.

So do not shame yourself for trying a medication because you need to get step one. Yes, discipline's important, but being able to understand how your body feels and reinforce that pattern is going to limit your ability to be disciplined. Now, if fullness and that kind of thing isn't an issue for you, then maybe you should avoid those medications, even if they keep being fed to you on your, your Instagram feed, because remember, there's a cause and effect to everything, every supplement, everything we take, even food.

It's going to have a cause and effect to our body, both positive and negative. So I just want everybody to think more long-term about your health when you're making these decisions about weight loss. So question two, this one, you're not gonna lie. Do you really wanna make a change? I hear clients talk to me all the time about this, this, and they'll always be like.

And I'm, but I'm not stressed. I'm not stressed at all. And I'll be like, oh my God. And I remember saying to someone, I'm not stressed. I'm dealing with everything fine. And when I hear other people say it, I'm like, oh my God, you were way too stressed and you were not, just because you can deal with a high level of stress doesn't mean you need to.

So I ask myself a question and I asked someone very important in my life once who was kind of on this weight loss rollercoaster. And I said, honestly, what if you were this weight the rest of your life? Would it affect you negatively or positive? She goes, no, I go, so either stop trying to lose weight or stop talking about it because you don't want to make changes in your life, but that's okay.

Now, if weight loss is a major risk factor or is inhibiting your overall health, well okay, but that's a different story. But do you actually wanna make those changes? I've had people tell me. I wanna lose weight, but I'm not gonna work out, or I wanna, and I'm like, all right, well, you gotta tighten up your diet.

Well, I don't wanna do that either. I'm like, okay. Or I've had a friend say, I'm gonna go to the gym to lose weight. I'm like, all right, well, how's your, your diet? I'm not changing the way I eat. Okay, so here's the deal. What drives you? Like, what are your goals? And think about if your goal is actual weight loss.

Create maybe steps to help you get there. So number one I do think is being a little self-reflective of thinking about what does it feel like to feel full? What does my day look like? Do I enjoy food? How do I wanna enjoy food? How much do I wanna think about food? All these things go into setting up in step one.

Okay, so. Ask yourself right now, would losing weight get you closer to your goals? If your goal is having a successful company, like, is losing 10 pounds gonna change that? No. Stay focused on your business being successful, right? If we stay focused on our goals and in the process, what I always say to clients is, if you stop take making weight loss your goal, you might lose weight.

Just be honest about what the changes you actually wanna make in your life. Because for some of us, some of our lifestyle choices are adding to weight gain or weight loss. But if you're not willing to change those things, you can't have it all. I don't know who this person is who tells you, oh, you can have it all.

You can drink every night and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But still be healthy. I believe everything in moderation. That's kind of how I live my life. Um, could I be thinner, I guess? Do I care? No, but I don't want to gain weight. The reason I don't wanna gain weight is I have a lot of sensory issues. I don't feel great at a certain weight because how clothes fit, how clothes feel against my skin, um, and maybe how I view myself.

Okay, we'll unpack that another episode. But that's the truth.

So I'm not willing to make any changes to my life to be 10 pounds lighter, but I'm not willing to make changes in my life that are going to make me 10, 15, 20 pounds heavier. Okay. And I think we just need to be honest with ourselves about that. That's the hard conversation. Right. So think about would losing weight get you closer to, to your goals?

And that's, yes. All right, well, let's make some steps. How are we gonna get there? What's step one? What's step two? And let me tell you, you're probably already at step eight, step one. I know it sucks. I talk about step one all the time. It's not sexy, it's not exciting, but it's what gets us to our goals.

Okay? And I'm gonna go to question three because question two, that's gotta be on you. I don't wanna insert any more opinions there 'cause I want you to figure it out for yourself. So question three is gonna go back to question one. What if your digestive issues aren't just about what you eat but your habits before, after, or during eating?

So think right now, what do you do before you eat? Whatcha doing? Now, if you've listened to this podcast for a while or know me, you know, I don't like to cook. So yes, I order out a lot. Stop judging me. Now, do I feel better when I cook? Uh, sometimes, but sometimes the stress of cooking stresses me out. Okay.

But I have a ritual. Usually I will sit and order my food, and then I will do a specific task until the food arrives. Then I put that task away. I eat my food, and then I do something else before I go back to that task. Okay? Now, let me tell you why I do this is because I find, I run a few businesses. I'm trying to finish a doctorate.

I'm no, no busier than anybody else, but I have to be clear with my time. And what I realized is I was rushing to eat. Or there was a lot of days where I would have two Oreo cookies for lunch because I didn't have time. That's bullshit. I didn't make time. Okay. So for me, in order to digest and to calm, you know, that you've ever heard, rest and digest is prior to the meal.

I like to stay focused on the task I was doing, and then DoorDash will say the driver is close by. I close my computer. I get my pancreatic pills. Um, I have these pills that they say they break down, um, minute amounts of gluten for cross-contamination. And yes, I know there is gluten and cross-contamination.

I have made a choice that I can't let that stress me out. Um, that is a choice I'm making and no, I don't want your opinion on that. So I take my pills, I get a glass of water, and then I sit down and eat. Now, something I thought of while doing this episode is. Maybe I can make a change to my before, because before should be prepping my body to eat.

So I actually thought to myself, Hey, would you be willing to do a little little bit of light mobility and movement to get your midsection moving? I'm talking like a cat cow or maybe some roll-ups just getting my spine to move to really mobilize my organs. And I thought to myself. Yeah, I could do that, but am I going to do that?

So I said, okay, what other pre ritual could I do? I said, ah, what if I committed to doing. Two eye exercises before I eat. Let me explain why. So, because I'm on my computer and constantly reading, breaking down research or doing stuff is, you know, our eyes get a little laser focused on things. Also, I do a lot of zoom sessions.

So two eye exercises I love to do is to improve my gaze stabilization. Now if you ever watch me talk, um, I don't gaze stabilize really well. I don't think I ever ga stabilized well, which is why my eyes move around a lot. Then post-concussion, that got worse. So if your eyes are darting around, that's a lot more information your brain is getting.

So it's like when we're scrolling on our phone, ugh, so not great sensory for the eyes, guys. So our brain is trying to filter all this information fast. So what I committed to is when I get my DoorDash order, I stop. Make sure Willie's inside, because the last two times I did this, he ran out. This is what life with is.

With like a beagle and I look as far away as I can and stay focused on it. Then I jump to my thumb that's right in front of me, jump to my far away target thumb target, thumb target, and stare at that target for as long as I can without blinking. So what I'm trying to do is open up my visual field so I can see further away.

And by picking two specific targets, it's helping my eyes gaze stabilize on something specific. And now why I chose that is I always have to go to the door to get my door dash. Now if my husband gets it, I decided what I'm going to do is it's best to do it outside, but like I can do it inside. Pick something as far away on the other side of my house.

Luckily we have kind of an open concept downstairs. So I can look at something near and far. Near and far. Okay. So I'm doing an eye exercise to help my eyes gaze stabilize, and not giving my brain too much information that's not meaningful while I'm trying to eat. The other eye exercise I like to do is divergence.

So convergence you ever see, like, and you ever see the, the, the Brock string where it's a string with the balls on it, or people doing a pencil pushup that's working, convergence and divergence. Um, post-concussion. And because I'm on a computer all the time, um, my divergence sucks. That's seeing things further away.

So your eyes moving apart when you're looking further away and when, just do it right now. Put your thumb out in front of you and follow your thumb all the way in. Until it splits or goes double and then back away. Okay. I'll also do three focusing on divergence. So I start close by my nose, open my eyes, find the thumb, and then keep my eyes laser focused on the thumb as it moves away from me.

So my new pre. Meal ritual that I'm gonna commit to changing is I'm going to do two eye exercises before I eat. The reason being is to help my nervous system calm down, help my eyes focus so that my brain isn't getting a ton of information when it needs to rest and digest. If I don't wanna do the eye exercises, I'm gonna get on the floor and do a cat cow to really mobilize my organs, get my spine moving, uh, to kind of prep for eating.

So a pre-me ritual is key. Now, I was brought up in a house. My dad is Jewish and my mom is Irish Catholic. Um, so religion wasn't a big part of our lives, so we never prayed over our food or anything like that. But I've seen people do that. And while I'm not religious, I kind of like the ritual of taking a moment and being conscious of what we're consuming, thanking whomever, her, him, whomever.

Brought us this bountiful meal or whatever, and really being conscious of that, we're going to eat. So maybe set yourself up a pre meal ritual. Maybe it's movement, maybe it's eye exercises, maybe it's a prayer. Maybe it's being, uh, being grateful for something maybe before a meal. My gratitude, um, I don't wanna call it gratitude, prayer, I can't think of a better word, is like when I'm traveling and I have to see a lot of clients.

I always say to myself, I am so grateful to do what I love, even when I'm tired. Because when you're tired and you're seeing a ton of clients every day, it can be draining. And I remind myself that you are very lucky to do what you love, even when you're tired, right? So just giving yourself a message of gratitude or maybe you're, I'm grateful for my dad for giving me such a great sense of humor.

I don't know, whatever it is. Okay, now sidebar on that. What are you doing during eating? Are you eating really fast? Are you eating really slow? I remember this quote I heard years ago from the woman who started Weight Watchers, and I'm sorry, I don't know her name and I apologize for that, but she said that she just started observing people, people who were overweight, underweight normal weight, and something she observed is that people who were a normal or underweight.

Constantly put their fork down. Now, I think she said that as a joke, but what was interesting is they took their time eating and everybody tells us that, but we tend to rush through eating. I catch myself doing this. I know my husband does this. We all do it, so I don't really have a great solution for slowing down during eating.

But maybe put your fork down in between bites. Maybe it'll help. And last but not least, what are you doing after you eat? You know, back in the Egyptian days, they would like lay down and then they're like, don't lay down after eating. Go for a walk. And something that's interesting, I remember learning this in school in my exercise physics class, when we're exercising, a lot of our body functions speed up except for digestion.

Okay? So what I like to think about after eating is how can I create a calm warming environment for digestion to happen? Okay, so remember I said I don't go back to the task I was doing right after eating. The reason I do that is I don't wanna go back into stress or work, right? What I try to do is something else, maybe try to talk to my husband, or I watch one of my stories or something else, and then go back to work, right?

So question three. Is really thinking about our habits. Are we scrolling on our phone before and after meals? Could that be interfering with our digestion? Because our nervous system is agitated, our eyes can't focus. Our brain is getting a ton of information that it has to process and cannot focus on digestion.

Or maybe we are a mom or a dad, a single mom or dad. That's multitasking a lot of things. So you don't have time for a proper meal. We all have time. Before a meal to be grateful for something, say a prayer or look at the food. Just pause. Okay. We all can eat a little slower. Hmm, and we can all be conscious of our after.

Now, don't tell. Maybe after you may do your eye exercises. Love it. Come up with a strategy that works for you, because weight loss is more than just calories and calor. Calories in versus calories out. I am so sick of people getting on podcasts. I just saw someone I respected say, well, I'm against GLP ones, because people have to have more discipline.

It's all about calories, inverse calories out, and they need to do more weight training. Okay, go back to hypermobility. Some people are hypermobile, do not do well with weight training. They can't find the correct weight. They need more sensory preferences. So if you're one of those people, go back to episode uh two where I talk about sensory preferences.

They might not feel full. They don't know what it feels like, or maybe it feels good to them or bad to them. We don't know. Maybe they're punishing themselves every time they feel full or hungry, maybe because something happened in their life. Things are more complex. Humans are complex. We all have sensory needs.

We also have sensory things that distract us and make our nervous system more agitated or less agitated. So I asked you today, I know I went a little over my 30 minute allotted time. But I think it's really important to take the judgment away from weight loss and ask yourself or your clients these three questions.

It's, could it be not a discipline problem, but how your brain is interpreting fullness, safety, and reward?

Are you willing to make changes? Because maybe the changes we're asking people to make aren't possible. So maybe we have to sit down and create different changes, create a different strategy, and anybody who runs a successful business knows that the strategy that worked for somebody else isn't gonna work for you.

I have had to, before COVID, during COVID after, had to revamp my companies multiple times. Have to be always ahead of the curve. You've gotta adjust to what you need. Treat your body like your business, adjust, make changes, and don't let anybody else tell you what you're doing is wrong if you truly believe it.

But be honest to yourself if you are not willing to make changes that are necessary. And last but not least, ask yourself maybe if your rituals before, during and after eating could be contributing to digestive issues that are interfering with your weight gain, weight loss, or whatever you're doing. So thank you guys so much for listening to today's episode.

If you have any further questions or want some resources, I can point you in the right direction. I am not a weight loss specialist. It's not work that I enjoy doing, um, not that I don't enjoy. It's not my expertise, so I will refer you to people that I admire who look at the full picture. But if you need help understanding your sensory preferences or how your body's feeling in specific environments, please ask the question.

I will be here to think about it, listen to you, and maybe help you create strategies that work for you. So good luck on this journey, and hopefully you've gotten a little tidbit out of today's episode. 

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